Sheila Holmes

Sheila Holmes

Dec 8th 1947 — Jan 8th 2023 (75 years)

Biography

Sheila was raised in Maltby, Yorkshire in the UK, before living an adventurous life including in London UK, Kitwie Zambia, Toronto Canada and settling for the last 20ish years in the rolling hills of Campbellford, Ontario. In each place Sheila surrounded herself with close friends and a strong community. She is forever grateful for all the friendships and love through the years. She was proud to have left a convent school (before graduation) to move to Africa and go on to graduate with honours from York University and then was a Dean's List Scholar at U of T Law School. She had a successful family law practice in Toronto, where she provided practical advice to thousands of clients in marriage, divorce and custody disputes. She was passionate about helping her clients and providing them with the support to move on and thrive. Sheila raised her daughter Emily Stock in Toronto where Emily continues to reside with her husband (Scott) and daughter (Kaitlyn). Sheila was predeceased in 2013 by her husband Mike Anderson, with whom she lived for many years, with many dogs and other animals, at their farm, Tir-nan-og (“land of peace”). Sheila leaves behind her two sons (Philip (Eileen) and Oli (Angela) Wells), her daughter, and three stepdaughters (Jackie (Scott), Susie and Judy (Kevin) Anderson), along with their families, including her grandchildren (Abby, Tessa, Megan, Michael, Iris, Sorely and Kaitlyn) who were loved and magnificent in her eyes. Sheila left the world the way she lived in it - with dignity, and on her own terms - one month after her 75th birthday. Sheila's favourite charities include Dying with Dignity, and donations to your favourite charity in her honour are appreciated. Sheila did not want a funeral or celebration of life, and so we ask that you raise a glass and share stories in more intimate celebrations for “the Lady Sheila.”

Notes of Condolences about Sheila

Roslyn Tsao

10 days ago

Sheila had the demeanor that we should all aspire to in the practice of family law -- a calmness grounded in in quiet confidence, knowledge of the law and an understanding of the human condition. She was a pleasure to work with and opposite to on files and to see socially. Sheila will be greatly missed and has left memories of strength, positivity and kindness with those of us who had the privilege of knowing her.

Marvin Kurz

18 days ago

Sheila was just what a family lawyer should be: smart and creative, resolute and reasonable, tough but fair. She could argue or negotiate the hardest case against you while remaining your friend. She was a very fine person, who will be missed.

Marvin Kurz

19 days ago

Sheila was just what a family lawyer should be, smart and creative, resolute and creative; reasonable. She could argue simultaneously argue hardest case against you and be your friend. She was a very fine person.

Ella Bernhard

19 days ago

Dear Emily and family,

I was sadden to learn of Sheila's death and am sending you my deepest sympathy. I have not seen Sheila for a few years but we always kept in touch after I left Chappell Bushell Stewart and in later years. As you know, we were friends and shared both professional and personal goals. I do know that she was a caring and loving mother and grandmother. I know too that she was an outstanding lawyer in her field and was the leader of many positive changes to family law . I hope that happy memories of a life well lived and the love and support of friends and family help you grieve your loss. With affection, always,


Ella

Sheila Gibb

19 days ago

I had the good fortune of collaborating on an interesting file with Sheila in my early days as a family lawyer. We shared many stories and laughs as the case twisted and turned. From the start, Sheila treated me with kindness and familiarity — and as a true peer — even though I was many years her junior. That meant a lot to me. Over the years, I always enjoyed a good chat with Sheila. She radiated joy and good humour, and wore her heart on her sleeve when it came to sharing excitement about spending time with her fiercely-loved family. I remember Sheila with a big beautiful smile and a twinkle in her eye. My sincere condolences to all of her loved ones. Sheila was a gem.

Michael Stangarone

20 days ago

I was very sad to hear of Sheila’s passing earlier today. Sheila was my articling principal and is the reason I am a family law lawyer. When her firm couldn’t hire me back after my articling year in 2005, Sheila sent an email to her law friends about me and I had a job with my current firm the following week. She was an excellent mentor and friend, and I will never forget her generosity. My deepest condolences to Emily and her family.

Geoffrey Wells

20 days ago

Sheila was a lovely person. My condolences to her friends and family.

Frank Mendicino

20 days ago

I am saddened to hear of Sheila's passing. it was pleasure and privilege to have worked with her on family cases over the years. My condolences to the family.

Hilary Jensen

20 days ago

I am proud to have been friends with Sheila since our days together in Kitwe, Zambia. I have so many memories of times we shared together over the decades. She will be greatly missed by all. With love and best wishes to all the family.

Dan Goldberg

20 days ago

As a lawyer with the Office of the Children's Lawyer, I had several cases with Sheila over many years. I always, always found Sheila to be an extraordinarily kind and compassionate person who was a strong and clear advocate for her clients. Even when emotions got high, Sheila always kept her cool and interacted with clients, counsel and the Court in a very calm, professional and effective manner. Sheila was a lovely person and my sincere condolences to her family during this difficult time.

Christy and David Trombley

21 days ago

Our sincerest condolences for you at this time. Sheila was a joy to be around with. Sending you love and caring thoughts your way.

Doug Beamish

22 days ago

I had the honour and privilege of being Sheila's partner at two law firms during her career. I have known and respected Sheila for over 40 years. She was very highly regarded by her colleagues and a fierce advocate for her clients. She will be missed. My deepest condolences to her family.

Herschel Fogelman

22 days ago

Sheila and I were partners for a few years and colleagues at the bar for over three decades. I am not sure you could find someone who would have anything but kind words for Sheila, and I like all those who have posted, held her in the highest regard. A strong yet compassionate advocate. A trusted colleague. A true friend to many. I send my condolences to her family and dear friends.

Lorna M Yates

23 days ago

Sheila’s warmth and kindness to younger female lawyers was legendary. She was so kind to me in all of our professional and personal interactions, from my days articling to her retirement, ever gracious and ever determined, she will be missed by her colleagues very much. May her memory be a blessing to all who loved her and were loved so very fiercely by her.

Kirby Chown

23 days ago

Like Sheila, I was a family law lawyer in Toronto. We had many cases together over the years and it was always a relief to me when I learned Sheila was on the other side of a case as she was a strong advocate for her clients yet pleasant to deal with. I often referred people to her because of these qualities. She will be missed.

Grant Gold

24 days ago

I had a 2 week trial with Sheila in Hamilton in the 90s. My client was a bit crazy but Sheila's was way crazy. We laughed about that file over the next 30 years, almost every time we saw each other. Sheila was a true professional who knew not to take herself , or her crazy client, too seriously. She was a strong advocate for her clients, which all of us aspire to be. She will be missed.

Anne Spafford

24 days ago

Sheila and I met and instantly became friends when we were both beginning our legal careers at Borden & Elliot. I have many fond memories of time spent with her over the following decades. She was an amazing woman, a compassionate and wise lawyer and a loyal friend. Emily, my sincere condolences to you and your family for this tremendous loss.

Ron Peters

25 days ago

Sheila and Mike moved to Campbellford around the time I retired from the LCBO and started a second career in the pro shop at Warkworth Golf Club. I got to know them both while golfing, attending Rotary events and hunting at the farm with Mike. They were both special friends and I will always cherish their friendship and our moments together.

Rory Gilfillan

25 days ago

I only met Sheila a few times but I knew a great deal about her through my Mom and I also knew Mike from my work with Outward Bound. Sheila was incredibly helpful to my wife and I when we were in crisis and I remember being struck by her belief in doing the right thing not just for her clients but for everyone. In her profession, which is by nature and design adversarial, her desire to the right thing not just for her clients but for all parties involved was nothing short of profound. This has stayed with me as an aspiration in my own life.

Ken Morden

25 days ago

It has been said that one’s worth can be defined by their impact on the world. In my case it was Sheila’s impact on my world. I knew Sheila for over 25 years and her friendship, professional competence and a great action person altered my life for the good. Thanks Sheila, a lot of good memories about a truly unique and forthright person.

Kathryn L. Smithen

25 days ago

Sheila was my lawyer in the mid 1990's when I was going through a nasty divorce. At the time, I was struggling in my own life and made some poor choices. Where another lawyer refused to help, Sheila looked at me across her elegant desk and said "who cares what you did. Your husband should pay support." Every time we went to court, her reputation preceded her. She was treated like royalty by the bench and bar alike. Years later, she was thrilled for me when I turned my life around and became a family lawyer myself at the age of 49. I have thought of her many times during the past 11 years of practice. If I have one ounce of her chutzpah and grace, my clients will be well-served. Rest in peace, Sheila. I know that your memory will be a blessing to all those who deservedly loved and admired you.

Janet Laughton Mackay

a month ago

I miss you Sheila. Your generous nature, your feisty views, your fabulous life stories and your deep, deep, compassionate heart.

Lori Reynolds (Paterson)

a month ago

I was privileged to call Sheila my friend for the past 20 years. We shared countless happy times, and times of grief too.

Whether laughing or talking seriously, her support shone through. I never had to wonder what she "really' thought - a true friend. Lady Sheila steered her own boat with class and in the best direction, whether on smooth or rough seas. I'll miss her.

My deepest condolences to Emily and family.

Bernie and Marna Snitman

a month ago

Sheila and Mike were our neighbours in Campbellford. We enjoyed many good times together. Sending condolences and warm wishes to Sheila’s family.

Susan Sack

a month ago

Sheila, was a wonderful woman and a strong advocate who acted with integrity. I was privileged to have called her my partner - ever so briefly. She was a cherished colleague and friend. May her memory be a blessing.

Deb Bernstein and Sam Freeman

a month ago

We have so many happy memories of Sheila and Mike at their beautiful country home. She was always, always interesting.

Kathy Baker

a month ago

I went to law school with Sheila. Her humour and stoicism made it more bearable. She was a kind soul. I’ll miss her.

Nancye Farkas (nee Harrison)

a month ago

To Emily and family. Please accept my sincere condolences in your sad loss of Sheila. Sheila and I were friends while studying for our B.A. degrees at York University. While it was a long time ago, I never forgot her. She was an inspiration.

Amber Pickersgill

a month ago

Dear Emily, My thoughts are with you and your family. Sincerest condolences.

Leigh Ann

a month ago

Your mom's smile and laughter will be missed by all of us at Island Park. I really enjoyed getting to know your mother in the past few months here, we had many great talks about her life and travels. Please accept my condolences and my thoughts are with you all.

Paula Dribnenki

a month ago

My condolences to Emily, Philip and Oli, and all of Sheila's family and loved ones.  I am so deeply sorry for your loss.  I have especially warm memories of sharing meals with Sheila, Emily and baby Kaitlyn here in Vancouver. Such a special time it was.  Thinking of you and sending so much love.

john Valeriote

a month ago

Very sorry for your Loss and my thoughts are with you and your family

Darlene Priest

a month ago

Sheila it was a pleasure having known you & Mike lots of of laughter & wine made my afternoons a joy rest in peace my love❤️

Janie wnd Peter Moore

a month ago

We first met Sheila and Mike at the Williams Auction Hall. We were relatively new to the area, too. Visits were always fun at Tirnanog and at our place. Sheila kindly offered some legal advice to me (Janie) when my mother passed away. We took a golf lesson together and played 9 holes the last time I saw Sheila. She will be remembered as a kind and generous lady.

Bill Reid sydfinnumerouno@outlook.com

a month ago

Sheila and Mike have been a part of my life since they moved to Campbellford. After Mike's passing I saw Sheila either at "The Farm" or at Island Park on a weekly basis. Although at times (her word) snippy, she was a delight to be around. I am sadden for having lost a dear friend. Positive memories will keep with me always.

Rovena Hajderi

a month ago

Dear Emily and family, my sincerest condolences for the loss of your mother. She emanates strength and beauty through all these wonderful pictures with you. May her soul rest in peace and her memory never be forgotten.

Sandy Chapman

a month ago

Sheila & Mike were bright stars in our lives. Bill & I first met Sheila & Mike at The Grindhouse in Campbellford when we were newcomers to town. We spent many happy hours with them. We reminisce regularly about the chats & laughter we shared with them. What a wonderful woman!

Heather Allen

a month ago

Our thoughts are with Emily, Jackie, Susie, Judy, Sheila's sons and all the families & grandchildren. We are blessed to have met Sheila on several occasions with Michael Anderson and I remember clearly her sparkling smile.

Julie Hannaford

a month ago

In law, Sheila was a fierce advocate, a compassionate and wise counsel. In life, Sheila loved and was loved, without reserve or contingency. Emily and Caitlin, Sheila is ever with you, and with us. We shall not forget.

Ivana

a month ago

Emily, please accept our sincerest condolences on the passing of your wonderful mum. We have fond memories of her welcoming us so wholeheartedly on her farm and making us feel like family. Sending you big hugs and lots of love ❤️

Victoria Campbell

a month ago

Please accept my sincere condolences on the passing of Sheila. Sheila was my lawyer when I was going through my divorce. When I was with her in court I felt she was my armour. She was a fine lawyer and a lovely person.

Desmond Ryan

a month ago

Emily, your mum was a force to be reckoned with in so many ways. We are all so lucky to have had her in our lives. My heart goes out to you and your family and I will most certainly raise a glass to my dear friend. To you, Sheila, and thank you for your grace, your dignity, and your sense of fun!

Jeremy & Laura Cornwall

a month ago

Auntie Sheila will be sadly missed by so many. I (Jeremy) remember making Christmas crackers with her and Emily (then aged about 5 years) in Malibu. Then we were lucky enough to visit Canada with our daughter Emily over 17 years ago and having an amazing time at the farm (in the most incredible snow storm!)

Margot Ferguson

a month ago

Dear Emily and family, please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your mum. She sounds like a wonderful person and I hope your good memories will give you some comfort.

Valerie & Vince Pritchard

a month ago

Vince and I had the privilege of getting to know Sheila at the time of her lovely daughter, Emily‘s wedding to her son Scott. She was a magnificent woman, very bright and welcoming to our family. We got to know a better over the years and spent the most remarkable Christmas in the warmth of her home. We cared for her deeply, and our hearts go out to her family for such a tremendous loss.

Debbie Gray

a month ago

Our thoughts are with Emily, the Anderson girls/grandkids and her two sons. Grateful to have been able to share some time on earth with Sheila. What a remarkable woman. Rest well.

Rohit Trivedi

a month ago

Deepest sympathies to Emily + family. We are sorry for your loss.

Christine Etherington

a month ago

So very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.

Diane Menzies

a month ago

It was a pleasure and a privilege to have known and travelled with Sheila, to Costa Rica, Bhutan and Peru. She enthusiastically ziplined, went whitewater rafting and hiked to the top a mountain to the Tiger's Nest in Bhutan. We shared laughs and lots of white wine. Sheila, your giggles were contagious. I will miss you terribly but cherish the wonderful memories you left behind.

Cath Oglesby

a month ago

Sheila was my honorary sister in law. She was always very supportive and especially when my partner, her brother, passed away in 2017. I have many happy memories of her staying at her parents house in Maltby in Yorkshire, and of her visits to us on the South Coast of the UK. A donation will be made in her memory to paws2rescue.

Karen and Pat Mac Ginnis

a month ago

Sheila brought a touch of class to every situation. She had a charisma, a charm, and a strong sense of the absurd! She was beautiful, intelligent and strong minded. She will be missed. Cheers to Sheila!

Erica Lee Garcia

a month ago

My dear Sheila, Thank you for all the wonderful things you brought to this world: your wit, your intelligence, your passion for the law and doing the right thing, your love of laughter and good food and good times. Your children are a tribute to your resilience and your excellence, especially my dear friend Em. You will be deeply missed. I will remember you always as elegant, generous, beautiful, and fun. May you rest in peace. ❤️

Jane Taylor

a month ago

Dear Emily, We are so sorry for your loss.

I admired your mum's sense of adventure and her dedication to and love of her family and to helping others through her work. Mum enjoyed receiving her letters and photos while you were growing up. Sheila was a great letter writer! Sending lots of love. X

Lisa Lidvall

a month ago

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

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Sheila Gibb

Michael Stangarone

Geoffrey Wells

Frank Mendicino

Hilary Jensen

Dan Goldberg

Christy and David Trombley

Doug Beamish

Herschel Fogelman

Lorna M Yates

Kirby Chown

Grant Gold

Anne Spafford

Ron Peters

Rory Gilfillan

Ken Morden

Kathryn L. Smithen

Janet Laughton Mackay

Lori Reynolds (Paterson)

Bernie and Marna Snitman

Susan Sack

Deb Bernstein and Sam Freeman

Kathy Baker

Nancye Farkas (nee Harrison)

Amber Pickersgill

Leigh Ann

Paula Dribnenki

john Valeriote

Darlene Priest

Janie wnd Peter Moore

Bill Reid sydfinnumerouno@outlook.com

Rovena Hajderi

Sandy Chapman

Heather Allen

Julie Hannaford

Ivana

Victoria Campbell

Desmond Ryan

Jeremy & Laura Cornwall

Margot Ferguson

Valerie & Vince Pritchard

Debbie Gray

Rohit Trivedi

Christine Etherington

Diane Menzies

Cath Oglesby

Karen and Pat Mac Ginnis

Erica Lee Garcia

Jane Taylor

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